On Twitter, the PostSecret guy linked to the video in the article The woman who made a video about catcalling is already getting rape threats. The video is kind of unsettling for me to watch, and I’m not a pretty woman.
Of course, the woman who made this is getting rape threats now. Men don’t like being called out on their bad behavior. Look at the NFL, or the ruckus known as Gamergate for more examples, although c’mon, you know this is far from a new thing.
One guy commenting on Twitter said, basically, “What’s wrong with what most of these guys are saying?” Against my better judgment, I decided to write back. “Let’s try this: Would you say anything to a guy?” (I’m assuming this man is straight and the attractiveness of the guy is no issue.) He said yes — he’d be just trying to be friendly. OK, take him at his word. In many parts of the world, this might be a common thing, though let’s note the catcall video was taken in New York City, a place not known for small-town friendliness. Anyway, I guess he doesn’t see the nonverbals in what the guys in the video are doing when they “just say hi” to the filmmaker as she walks purposefully down the street. He pretty much says as much. I had to drop out of the exchange at this point, but some other commenters tried to explain what he wasn’t seeing.
I’m just amazed that men act this way toward women, verbally or digitally, in the year 2014. I see it with my own eyes; it’s not as if I can disbelieve it. You can’t say, as us progressive types sometimes do about things like racism and anti-gay beliefs, that “oh it’s just old men, they’ll be gone soon.” It’s men of most ages. Not all men, of course. But many men. Because of that, a woman can’t trust any man she doesn’t know. It turns streets into gauntlets to be run. At best. And it’s turning social media into a hellish pit for women who dare to speak out.
Not trying to get a cookie here (http://www.sinfest.net/view.php?date=2013-03-23), just … well, we gotta do better. Maybe we should stop trying to get ourselves out of responsibility by saying “it’s not all men.” So you don’t do this, great. What do you do?